This has been said by just about everyone under the sun. I know that. And yet I'm going to say it again. If you want to be in my life, please be IN it. Please be with me when we are together. Here's how I think you should do this.
1. Put down your phone. Better yet, leave it at home or in the car. At the least, leave it in your purse or your pocket when we're having a conversation.
If you have a loved one in the hospital or you left your kids at home without an adult, you may need to take a call. It's one thing if you are waiting for lab results or your deployed family member who only gets to call a few times a month. I'll happily wait while you take that call. Just tell me up-front, before you answer, that you need to take it.
I can't tell you the number of times lately that I've *tried* to have conversations with people who were constantly texting or checking Facebook while I was trying to talk to them. It's rude. It's disrespectful. It tells me that I am not as important as whoever or whatever you are looking at on your phone. It's all too quickly becoming the norm.
I've been guilty of this. More than once. I'm sorry for that. If I've disrespected you in this way, I'm asking for your forgiveness right now. I'm also asking for you to call me on it if I do it again. Seriously. If we're in conversation and I whip out my phone while we're talking, please ask me to put my phone away.
That's it. There is no number two in this week's advice. Number one really sums it up. If you want to be in my life, be in it. Put down your phone and let me know I'm more important that whatever is on that screen.
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